You may not have had a role model or tools for healthy and successful relationships. This can sabotage your attempts to create this in your adult life. It’s important to understand that our experiences trigger powerful reactions.

These reactions can create fear: the fear of being alone, the fear of being left or people dying, the fear of being hurt, betrayed or fear of failure.
We can sometimes react with anger to those fears, pushing others away to avoid rejection. Becoming too needy or oversharing in an attempt to create a feeling of intimacy or the opposite - walling yourself and sharing nothing. You might even stay in unhealthy relationships too long.

 We can’t change the past, but you can begin your journey by understanding it. Finding and understanding your story is one important factor to develop a new healthy path.

There are many effective tools within CBT to help to heal your abandonment traumas, some of them are Self-compassion, Self-awareness, Self-reflection and learn how to connect with the present moment. These tools are helpful when managing your fear of abandonment. It can be challenging but yet rewarding work.